BLOG 9.0: OBSESSION AND STALKERS.

You knew it would come, the one and only blog on Christian stalkers. This, however, isn’t a how to be a Christian stalker. Though I did want to write that, but I don’t have enough experience. I wanted to delve into an incredibly deceptive attitude that has influenced many people in the church unfortunately of all ages. This is a repeat of a blog I did a few years ago updated.

BLOG 4.0: ABOUT GUYS. FOR GUYS. ANYONE ELSE: READ AT YOUR OWN RISK. -SHAWN BOLZ.

Girls stop reading. I know you’re probably going to read it anyways because girls are so nosy…but consider yourself warned: there is guy talk in this chapter. Your welcome to try, and if you can get through it as a female you will probably have learned some valuable lessons.

I KISSED DATING GOODBYE, AND THEN I ASKED IT OUT AGAIN. -shawn bolz.

So here is where we need to go in our talk: A balanced way to pursue a desire of your heart and an attraction of your spirit, mind, and body. I have spent many hours hearing awesome dating life stories from Christians who are now married. I have also walked next to some who are now hurting from painful imbalanced relationships.

“I’M NOT MARRIED AND SO CAN YOU BE!” -SHAWN BOLZ.

I felt specifically to not be in a relationship during the decade of my twenties. I wasn’t legalistic and I knew it was an invitation so I was willing to take it day by day and walk with Him this way. I wasn’t crippled by the restraint, instead I walked in a level of freedom from having to think about a mate, who she might be, what our life might be like, and I was able to completely focus on Him.

THE UNRELIGIOUS GUIDE TO DATING AND BEING SINGLE. “Blog 2.0: Single and Loving/Hating it.”

Before we talk about anything else, we need to establish a foundation. Let me make a statement right off the bat that is important: If you are a Christian you do not have to be married, but you can choose to be. If you are consumed with marriage as a need then you are not living in the grace which Jesus paid a huge price for you to walk in. Let me show you what I mean, it all has to do with God’s desire for you.

When Adam and Eve were judged, part of their judgment was the fact that they were bound to each other. Genesis 3:17-18. There was already a Godly joining between Adam and Eve, but the desire to share oneself with one another changed from a CHOICE to a NEED with the separation from God.

THE UNRELIGIOUS GUIDE TO DATING AND BEING SINGLE! BY SHAWN BOLZ.

This blog series is not an exhaustive manuscript on the subject on being single, dating, and or relationships, instead it is more of a project to challenge your way of thinking and to help you live in a balanced view of your own dating or single pursuit, and also to set right boundaries for your relationships. It is a philosophy document exploring our changing culture and our role in it. There are books that can help you define what you want in a relationship, how to pray relationships in, kiss relationships goodbye, and that sort of thing. This blog series does more than that because it makes fun of, and dismantles many of those books without me even trying! Even better than that, you will hopefully have a much freer way of thinking later.